My mothers genes have Generosity encoded in them and because of that Tabung Minci was created

I made a day trip to my moms home last weekend. It was a 2 hour drive from my place and I was anxious with the thought of bringing my kids along. I prayed that they will behave and that Ninie especially would not poop in the car. Alhamdulilah, the journey went fine.The pu rpose of the trip was to send my mom n my sister’s stuff.

In return, amusingly, I got stuff too. Which was way more than what I have brought with me initally. I ended up huggling back to Melaka a set of Tefal cookware, baking items, clothes, a book and food. The ever most important deer meat ! My mom will not let the matter rest until I taste the venison.

Mum also updated me about her social activities – her marhaban group. She said their annual dinner is coming soon and that they will be an election for the committee.


You know being a leader, you still need someone with money. At least, that is how it is in my group, it keeps the group going. Self funding helps to oil those little bits in the operation for it to run smoothly, she says

She narrated how sometimes she would have to pay things forward first, lend money to those in need and paid back without interest, get gifts to boost motivation but still she felt great to be able to do that. To her, these deeds are a form of sedekah. To her, Allah has placed her in a position where she is able to lend a helping hand in ways that she is capable of. And if her role comes in the form of giving financial aid, then why not? 

I have always known her to be really wise with money. Thrifty but generous at the same time. I learnt from her that as moms – we should think about our children’s finances. She would keep part of her money in our savings account and this went on until I finally got into college. Because of that, I am doing the same for my Syazmins. I would keep aside as many RM20 notes as I can to be kept in their accounts.

As of my mom being generous, paying for a friends meal, hosting a party or getting gift for people that she loves dearly just comes by naturally. She would buy things from friends if she knows that her friends could make a living out of it. She is that supportive. And that gesture is slowly becoming second nature to myself as well. I mean, I try. And it does make you feel good about yourself when you do things For Yourself and not expecting people to return the favor. Making someone else happy makes you happy. Most of the time. And every good things does not have to come in the form of giving money. 

Despite that I still make my own charity fund which I call Tabung Minci. Inspired by my moms generosity for sure. This is where my monthly elaun keraian goes too. From here, I make scheduled monthly donations to Al-Yateem Islamic Relief Programme and Mercy Malaysia. The remaining funds I would use for the occasional public donation drives, to sponsor activities related to clinic or personal causes, individual sedekahs etc.  

I took time off recently to sort out my burned out life. I also decided it is a good time to keep my Tabung Minci engines running. I am preparing care packages for kids & babies that come to my Klinik Desa. I sent out Parcel Kasih Sayang (kinda like a Raya goodie box) to my Wanita Besi Eropah  (WBE) girls too few days ago. On top of that, I made Eid cookies for my friends at work. I made the usual Cornflakes with Dates & another variation is Rose Honey Cornflakes. I bought the Rose Honey from Ninso. 

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It’s just a simple gesture to acknowledge how much I care about them too. These, I feel is my form of good deed and sedekah too. I just hope Allah accepts all of them and grant me Pahala and Jannah.  This small act would not have been possible without the support of my husband and blessings from my mom. I fund her activities monthly (read: elaun belanja .. ha ha ha). I hope to also reap the benefits from her good deeds too. InsyaAllah.

Feel free to read about my Tabung Minci ventures by searching hashtags : TabungMinci & Sedekah/ Sedeqah. I even dedicated a page for Tabung Minci for my own record. 2019 has yet to be updated but we are threading the year slowly. 

 

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Sulawesi. Funding via IMARET

Kerana kita bersaudara.

Some time ago, when we wanted to erect the Malaysian Field Hospital (MFH) in Cox Bazaar – it caused an uproar from misguided netizens who thinks that what we are doing goes along the line of ‘kera di hutan disusukan, anak di pangkuan mati kelaparan’. There are groups of vocal people unfortunately, who feel we should NOT extend International Help and take more care of our own.

Well folks. Today, SULAWESI needs our help. And as Malaysians, I think we should help our neighbours steadily and ease their burden.

I feel we should be able to do both. We should be able to help ourselves and also the international community as needed because we have neighbours. We are Muslims. And muslims are not selfish. Muslims take care of each other, even if they are non muslims.

Furthermore, we have individuals and organizations with different purposes to serve different groups of people ( be it in or out of the country) in the name of humanity. InsyaAllah no one would be left behind or unaccounted for. Because every life matters. Dalam Malaysia dan luar negara. But charity should start with you as well. Jgn banyak cakap. Just start.

If you have the skills, volunteer.

If you have the knowledge, volunteer.

Just give what you can. Raising funds and spreading awareness is the least that one can do. And make du’a to Allah The Most Knowingly and Benevolent and Merciful.

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Sometimes a disaster that happens to another person/country, is actually a test from us to ALLah. He wants to see whether we can unite as a nation and help another who needs them. He wants to see whether we can utilize the nikmat He has bestowed upon us towards a cause that could benefit others. He wants to see us being the best version of a human being that walks on His earth.

InsyaAllah. 

Ponderings on becoming an NGI

I scrolled my FB feed today and digested the usual ‘news’. Of syok sendiri viral issues, local crimes, nonsense politics, recipes that I can’t seem to find time to make and sales post and recruitment which is supposed to get you out of poverty or debt.

Then there was this little post by one of my favourite NGI’s; Syed Azmi. He was kind of ‘coaching’ a young NGI (Non Governmental Individual) wannabe, Imran, by asking a few basic questions that, in my opinion could help guide someone to the desired charitable purpose.

Some of the questions were;

  1. What is your skill?

  2. What is your passion?

  3. When is your free time you can volunteer?

  4. Do you drive?

  5. What is your strength/weakness? Your limitation?

I was stuck at No 3. I couldn’t really use my profession as my excuse because personally I do not think that it’s a formidable excuse. Like come on lah Minci… if you really want to do something – you would make time for it. Sampai bila nak harap pada pahala pasif kan? Which sadly seems to be the most popular thing nowadays. For instance, if someone wants to sell their product, it almost often ends with ‘share this post, you could get pahala for simply sharing” just how we love passive income? errr.. guilty as charged here. 

Hence I learnt something about this process. That we should give what we can with the capacity that we have. I may not have time (yet) to devote for my cause. But InsyaAllah, that intense push will come. yelah.. can you just imagine my husbands reaction? Dahlah already busy with oncall and on your free weekend you want to run for Africa? Not to mention those occasional but important days where you had to stay back at work because you had to?  Contoh je.. I just don’t want the topic of ‘anak kera di hutan disusukan‘ to rise in our daily couple conversation. Kah kah kah.  Until then, just do what you can. 

A kind word. A motivating speech/blog post/watsapp message.

A  mini donation/contribution here and there.

The ultimate act of charity is still about Time. I will get there.

 

Tabung Minci in a selfless and New Year spirit

My items sold at the BSP Carboot Sale and Putrajaya Greencycle Carboot Sale raked in RM220.00 in total. A clean profit of RM 200.00 after deducting sewa tapak. Alhamdulilah … let’s channel it to goodness.

So while the medical fraternity is collectively bashing MB for her ignorance regarding the ‘jahit guni’ thing – I feel I should choose to not climb aboard the same boat of viral-ling her post and the response that comes with it. Yes, I am furious that she had accused my medical colleagues in Sungai Buloh for being irresponsible but the issue has been rectified and responded professionally by qualified orthopedic surgeons and specialists alike. I don’t see why we need to make a parody or a meme pertaining to herself. I am sure she gets the picture already. I am sure she feels ashamed already during ward rounds when sarcasm is dished out on a TDS/PRN basis.

If we keep attacking her out of hatred and with the intent of embarrassing her instead of educating – I don’t see how we are any different from the many keyboard warriors or cyber bully out there.

Anyway – again, inspired by local humanitarians in this country I have decided to put my car boot sale earnings and Tabung Minci fund to good use this month. Since I am not Canada whose heart is so big and wonderful to accept Syrian refugees – I think my local community needs all the help it can get too.

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The recipients include;

  1. Madrasah Tahfiz Wal Ulum Darul Yamani, Jasin – the school needed funding for a PA system which they could use to laungkan the azan, recite dua’s , zikir and other related activities.
  2. Islamic Relief Local Emergency Relief Pack  – on top of the Al- yateem programme, they also have seasonal appeals and this particular one is closely related to communities which are affected by the floods.
  3. Tabung Ehsani Srikandi (TES)  – it has come to my attention recently that the alumni has a particular fund which aims to assist the less fortunate young srikandi’s in school today in their studies and everyday needs. This is a collective effort made by our CM and I feel this is a chance in a way to give back to the school that has given me so much to start with.

I’m planning on a year end event in the next two weeks. I hope everything will come together and explode with joy and happiness.

Carboot Sale – What I learnt from the experience

Our car boot sale would not have materialized if my sister was not on board.

major players : my sister and her husband

major players : my sister and her husband

We read about carboot tips from experienced car booters online. We screened our items for any faults – even if one shirt has no button on it, it will not be included in the sale because kita bukan nak jual sampah, kita nak jual barang baik punya at a low price. If say after 3 attempts at selling it off, the item is not bought – the stash will go to charity for those in need. In Malaysia, there is always someone in need. We just have to know where to find them. Some are easily found through charity organizations. Others may be missed out due to location or other factors we have yet to discover.

We booked our spot early

We brought our floating money – those small change you give to buyers

We folded our recyclable plastic bags from home so buyers need not worry about how to bring back home their goods

We brought our breakfast to the site and shared it with our ‘neighbours’ – then we kept our food trash properly in our trash bag so we wouldn’t litter the area unnecessarily

We brought chairs for us to sit down and mini fans to combat the dry and hot weather

We labelled our things well and are open to negotiations

We followed every single advice we gathered through the world wide web to make our sale a success. Once our boot has been set up – there were only a few things to do

  • wait for customers
  • people watching and profiling

It seems that our area is heavily populated by generations like ourselves. Young parents with toddlers and preschool going kids. There were not many elderly parents nor were there many teenagers. Perhaps the latter were still in bed on a weekend which left us wondering where the younger uns are. It’s like if we  have to go to war, there will be a lot of widows and orphans left behind. So our baju nenek2 were not selling fast enough including my stickers and planner related items. I should just pack them and sell them online. Or have a try setting up a booth at a planner related event.

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Then I noticed that we have a lot of young foreigners working as domestic maids and contract workers looking for cheap clothing. The contractors were looking for worn out T-shirts they could use for their daily work whereas the maids were looking for fancy blouses. What we were not expecting was that the ladies were not looking for the sizes that we have – in fact even the locals were the same. They wanted bigger sized clothes. I almost forget Malaysia is an overweight and obese country as compared to the other ASEAN nations. So yeah.. my kurus clothes did not have as many buyers as opposed to my maternity clothes.

One thing stood out though on that day of how a foreign contract worker was looking for books to read. I love people who read and this particular man was looking for an English novel. I handed him a few to choose and he bought one off the shelves. It was a rare sight but I thought it was cute to have this big man in his safety helmet and boots, looking all rugged and bulky  – having in his hand a pink plastic bag with my book and 2 free owl bookmarks and a self-made calendar. I hope he finds the book interesting. I was a bit disappointed that no one wanted my older edition of Reader’s Digest – where are all the bookworms? It’s only RM5!!!

My sister and I were not there to make big bucks. It was more of an activity we can do together as sisters. Married with kids plak tuh..  At the same time decluttering our home. We felt like we achieved something at the end and now we are planning to do a Sarawak themed car boot sale. It would be interesting the next available weekend. Time to plan! Where is my washi and stickers!!

Later I will tell you what I did with the money I got. It’s got something to do with my Tabung Minci.