Sending Awwl Rizq my love

“Your birthday is a special time to celebrate the gift of ‘you’ to the world.”

One of my self-acclaimed godchildren is born. Awwl Rizq. Cahaya mata sidak Jet ngan lakinya Gajah Pink. Ku mala jak lupak nama lakinya.. oh, dah ingat, Rohaizat.

As always, I love giving presents to people. In fact, sending the Raya greeting card has been an annual routine that I love doing.

Since Awwl Rizq is technically undecided on what he likes, I decided to give him what his mother would like. An elephant-themed diaper cake. I received a beautifully crafted one sent by my best friend ordered through this website [DiaperCake&Such] and hence I thought Id do the same.

And heres the neonate with the cake!

Paternity Leave : What Fathers Should Be Doing

 

“Any man can be a father, but it takes a special person to be a dad”

Nowadays in Malaysia, new fathers are granted a 7 day paid leave. A full one week ‘holiday’ entrusted to men so they may fulfill their obligations in welcoming the new member of the family. It is not the time to laze around fathers. In fact, these are the recommended things you can do within your 7 days.

 

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1. Hands on, with the baby

Its normal to feel slightly quesy or awkward to hold a newborn. They’re so little (unless its a macrosomic baby) with fingers and toes so dainty, it almost feels like you’re going to break any one of them anytime. However do not let that intimidate you, this is YOUR flesh and blood… plus, you’re not feeling this alone. Mothers, especially first timers may feel nervous too of having to hold their baby. Get over it, handle the babies carefully and it would provide great relief especially to the mother as she has an extra pair of hands that could help at least change the wet nappies every now and then.

2. Assume domestic responsibilities

Brew some tea, make some coffee. Toast a bread, stir fry nasi goreng etc. Soak the linens, wash your own clothes, buy groceries. Sweep the floor, make the bed, draw the curtains.. I can go on and on but I think most people have the idea already.

3. Sacrifice a few hours of your sleep time

At least for the first 6 days. Considering that you’re not working, it would be of great assistance to help nurse and change the baby’s nappy at night. Mothers, especially those who doesnt have the luxury of a nanny or an elder,  on top of just having a Caesarean section could really use some help. I know I did. Thank you.

Finally,

Be an active advocate for your wife and newborn child

There will be plenty of visitors to the house along with probably some unwanted advice. As a husband, I think it is very important for you to know how and when to put your foot down in relation to things or practices that may harm your wife and baby. Things like drinking god-knows-what herbs, unknown origin of ointments for the baby..

Then to ensure to your very best that both wife and baby have their privacy and aurat (for the wife) protected at all times. I think that is the outmost importance. Just because you’ve just given birth, it doesnt mean that its alright to flash your hair and boobs liberally.

That should sum it up. Wonder if Ive left anything out.

Baby Zeeq’s ‘Shower’

“Sometimes its the smallest things that take up the most room in your heart”

 

Up until last week, it has been quite a battle to bath Baby Zeeq. He’d be screaming on top of his lungs, kicking his little soft legs. His cries got so ‘scary’ that I was worried that the neighbours would think Im torturing the poor soul. It was only later that I discovered that these episodes of menace could be minimised by a particular technique.

 

Shower his feet first and work your way up.

 

Baby Zeeq does not wash in a regular basin or tub. He has his own little plastic chair. So far, the technique works for him and its so nice to see him enjoying his bath. Yay!

Bring it on crybaby

“Energy and Persistence conquer all things”

-Benjamin Franklin-

 

I believe it is a challenge for any new mother ( Im not sure if the rule applies to am-a-mother as well) to ensure that their newborn gets a comfortable sleep at night. Its a constant battle every night trying to figure out why the baby is crying.

Hungry? Cold? Poop? or the number one enemy – Colic. Even professional help offers no rescue to the mommy in distress. Have yet to try the iPhone app though.

On a lucky night, you may get a 2 hour rest just before the little one gets back up again for feeding. Other nights, you end up getting a throbbing headache the next morning. Worst nights will result in any vulnerable mothers mind bearing the feeling of  ‘I failed as a mother. My baby cried all night and I didnt know what else to do’.

Despite the atrocities of newborn behaviour, a  friend of a friend of a friend told Mr Husband that the baby will automatically behave on Day 61 of life. Im looking forward to see of this statement holds any truth at all.

Until that day comes… Baby Zeeq, here comes Mommy. Bring it on!