I am in the phase of life where I don’t have a lot of special friends anymore.I’m still grateful for what is left though. F.R.I.E.N.D.S bring on a different meaning every time. And we substitute them with so many different words depending on what they mean to us. That ‘friend’ can be just an associate, a kenalan, org sama keje kat tempat aku, a Uni friend,a dorm-mate, a work colleague etc..
And from that handful, there will be a few that you really want to keep and grab hold on longer for their friendship. The catch is, would they think the same way of you. Would they reciprocate and want to hold on to you too? Do they love and care for you just as much as you of them?
I am still finding my answers today. I still wonder if … if I call them my BFFs – do they even think that I’m a BFF. Or a friend, someone you’d call in times of despair. Or when you wish to share some happiness.
Today, we had a farewell dinner for 2 wonderful ladies in our unit. If I am King Arthur, I’d offer them a spot on my round table. They are that great doing big big things in the future.
Perhaps my hospital is best known as a transit hospital. A place where doctors wait and serve until it is time to move to greener pastures. While it is a lost to our patients for losing such great minds and love, as one of those chronic people who are still holding on to our comfort zones, I see it as a great opportunity to meet lots and lots of people. From different walks of life, of varied medical experience. Yup, I’m still here going on to my 4th year.
Another colleague is leaving by next week. We are organizing a farewell party for her tomorrow. Earlier this month she already belanja a few of us a meal at the ikan bakar area in Duyung. I heard it cost her a leg. Ha ha. So I guess its time to return the favour on a larger and more formal scale.
I have been asked to get her a gift. Hence, for practicality sake I bluntly texted this colleague and asked her if she wanted anything special. She cheekily replied, I want a new water bottle, to replace my orange one.
So a water bottle it is. But since I have like nearly 200 to spend, I’d probably end up getting something that she doesn’t use as well. On top of the ciput water bottle of course. I mean, what do you give someone who has everything. Someone who drives a Mercedes Benz, a beetle.. someone who owns her own practice.
If it was me, I would like my farewell gift to be;
- a cute box filled with faber castell black ink pen sampai penuh
- stuff like stickers and sticky pads for my planner
- a good story book
- a small handbag
ha ha ha. Now this sounds like a birthday gift.
This year alone, 5 colleagues from my hospital decided to QUIT Kementerian Kesihatan Malaysia (KKM). Few were seeking greener pastures, others had personal problems and one was totally geram at the higher administrations at Putrajaya for unjust judgements and treatment.
While some people would respond by saying,
“banyak lagi doktor yang lain”
I myself think that these 5 people are a great loss to the patients of this hospital. These doctors not only have served both overseas and locally for a number of years, they are also those who cares deeply about their patients – only met with ungrateful remarks sometimes. Bayangkan.. nak ajar pesakit how to perform the solat as a sick person pun kena marah by their relatives. *facepalm*
Anyway, whatever reason they chose to leave – it is only natural for them or us to hold a farewell party. Recently however, the last one who left did not want a farewell party. While I understand his reason of not wanting to make a big fuss of him leaving, I felt that at least a simple farewell ceremony should be held. Wanna know why?
So people have a platform to meet and greet for the last time. So broken bridges could be mended. Forgiveness sought. Happy memories reminisced. Awful experiences shared and learnt. Words of wisdom passed on to others. Monetary favours or loans be returned appropriately. So gratitude and thanks can be expressed to people who have made life easy and meaningful to oneself after so many years at one place.
All this so the person leaving could start the new chapter of their lives in a new, refreshed breath having made peace and amends to their past. Its not just a farewell party. Its a time to give yourself a wonderful finale for the current chapter of your life.
“Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.”
If I had more time and was more prepared, this would have been the speech that I’d make during my farewell party.
Assalamualaikum & Good Evening to Dr Nor, Specialists and my colleagues,
First of all, thank you for sparing some of your precious time to attend this dinner. Second of all, thank you also for a good year. I honestly enjoyed my time here in the department despite not liking it in the first place.
I would have loved to dedicate my whole serving years in this department in this hospital, or for at least a few more years.. especially with all the new and exciting things which is happening within our service to SGH. It would be nice to be part of the change we see happening but alas, things happen, plans too have to change as necessary.
I will bring with me the knowledge and experience Ive savoured during my little time here to my new place. I hope to make all of you proud of me, so much so that you wont feel its a waste of time training us from scratch.
Last but not least, I apologize heavily if at anny point I’ve made anyone upset. Also a big sorry for the occasional blur and blonde moments in OT.
So, if ever any of you come to Malacca, do give me a call or just drop a line in FB. Hope to see you guys again.
OK. Lame. i get it.