Emotions Charged!

“If you can, help others; if you cannot do that, at least do not harm them”

The theme of today is : Emotionally Charged

I started my morning with an emotionally charged discussion with a patient and her husband regarding her medical condition. Honestly, seeing the doctor first thing in the morning to ask regarding ones wellbeing or progress is not a wise thing. Especially when the ward is run under a specialists supervision. the best time is probably during designated visiting hours where doctors are surely to be around to answer questions. Early morning encounter not only deprives the doc-in-charge to do his/her rounds to other patients (which is not fair) but also in the event of a heated argument, it will leave everybody in a foul mood for THE WHOLE DAY!

Later in the afternoon we had a Mortality & Morbidity review.

Its difficult to stay calm especially when you’ve got 5 cases to present with drawbacks in each, hopefully with an intention to improve. Though no names were mentioned, there were accusatory tones in terms of giving the presentation and also from those providing expert opinions on the matter. In short, it was an uncomfortable 300 minutes. I could feel all my vital organs burning, heated at most, throughout the meeting eventhough I did not participate directly in the discussions.

Then when I returned home, I was hit with another avalanche of negative emotions.

I had to, again, apologize to the person involved of my husbands abrupt and seemingly rude comment. Honestly, this is not the first time – apologizing on behalf. Although yes, he had a point to the person.. I believed it could be conveyed in a more gentleman manner. perhaps its because Im a peaceful person myself and perhaps it was because the person had a change in his tone and demeanour after the ‘teguran’ by Mr Husband. It just left this very uncomfortable feeling in my throat and an ugly aura in the room itself.  Mr Husband wanted to appear heroic but unfortunately at a price.

*Sigh*. Im spent. Emotionally.

Minci’s 101 on Anger Management

“Speak when you are angry – and you’ll make the best speech you’ll ever regret.”
– Dr. Laurence J. Peter –

Today, I conquered Anger. I was angry towards Mr Husband. Over a petty issue. Nevertheless, it still left me fired up over the situation. Instead of sleeping it off, I decided to utilise the power from Anger into doing my daily chores, amongst many other things.I am afterall, The Good Wife.


– hoovered our living space
– did the laundry and hang out musty pillows to ‘dry’ underneath the sun
– ironed baskets of shirt
– sanitised Baby Zeeqs feeding bottle
– cooked dinner
– scrubbed the bathroom

I would have done a MouseHunt if I had extra energy. Alas, by the end of the day my batteries needed a recharge. This is partly how I managed Anger. By accomplishing tasks/doing things.

Anger is negative energy. An inappropriate response to it, not only brings harm to the individual per se but also to his/her surrounding people and environment. Vandalisme, bullying, depression even are all consequences of Anger in which is not handled properly. Hence, the need for Anger Management. We all have our own strategies in combating this sin. This is mine.

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