Lubuk Pahala. To each their own. What is yours?

Caprice says Social Media is the new Power. Sadly, how true. It is very easy to just judge someone based on a single photo or a video cut short. You drink a cup of coffee beside a penguin they say you want to abuse it, a guy wears pink to his grandma’s birthday party to fulfill the theme – netizens say he is gay. Just because he hugged a male cousin who is also wearing pink in ONE PHOTO.

But that is Social Media. We also cannot run away from being judgmental on a first encounter with a stranger in real life. We categorize people based on what they wear or who they hang out with. Pakai purdah is Arqam.. or sesat.. or antivaccine. Tak pakai tudung is tak solat, tak kenal agama. Cam tuhlah. Sedangkan we may never be sure the good things they do to please Allah. The Lubuk Pahala Allah gives to people we think have sinned greatly or is far from perfection – simply because He loves them!

Perhaps to a GRO, He bestowed her a disabled child whom she loves dearly and cares for unconditionally. To a childless couple a great amount of wealth so they could be generous and sedekah always.

And yet being human, we still judge. I too have my fair share of incidences which woke me up and made me istighfar as I felt awful for judging them too early. Eventhough it was not on Social Media tapi bila terdetik , “Eeeee.. dia tak malu ke mcm tuh. Tak insaf ke?” or “camnelah dia nak masuk syurga”.. it still feels bad.

#1

Once during medical school in Manchester, I was in the same group with this very energetic, young male Lebanese Muslim. He was popular for he loves to mingle with everyone. To the muslims, he would greet “SalamAlaykum Sisters/Brothers”.. to the non muslims it’ll be a hey man sorta thing. He would join every single social gathering like a pub crawl or a costume party. He does not drink alcohol but he socializes freely with the ladies. He would give them nice big hugs. Never a kiss but hugs definitely.  He wears a tight top which shows off his well sculpted body almost everyday.

I was wearing a hijab like those muslimahs you often see and I did not go to pub crawls. Not even the MESS PARTY. Hence it was easy for me to say ” kenapalah suka nak gi tempat2 camtuh” Until one day….

We finished our group session for the day. Being the friendly guy  he is, he was asking me (my sister Yasmin, that is what he usually calls me) how I was doing and how I should show him around Malaysia one day if he’d ever reach here – while rearranging his books and papers in his bag, when suddenly he brought out a little Quran. My immediate response was “oouh?” while pointing at the kitab.

He said “yeah yeah.. I bring it with me everywhere sister. I read them everyday. Are not the words of Allah beautiful? Our prophet Muhammad S.A.W. is such a lucky dude to be the first man to receive His words yeh?”

I was at lost of words. This man who hugs girls, goes to pub crawls – brings The Quran in his bagpack everywhere and reads them daily! Aku? Kadang-kadang seminggu pun macam tak sentuh. That was one of the biggest lessons I have learnt about Lubuk Pahala. This friend of mine, his was InsyaAllah in the reading of the Quran.

#2

There was this lady at work who wears the hijab as part of the uniform but frees her hair outside of work. Yet you can tell that she is kind from the way she talks and treats other people. So it was easy to say, “budaknya dah baik, kan bagus kalau dia pakai tudung”. Then you learn that she is more than kind – she prays her solat Fardhu on time and not only that, she wakes up at night for her tahajud. And she is not even above 30 years old. MasyaAllah.

Aku? Who will be 35 this year? Solat kekadang hujung waktu. Tahajud apatah lagi.

InsyaAllah her Lubuk Pahala is in her prayers and with time InsyaAllah she will cover herself as well.

To err is human. But we should always find ways to improve ourselves and please Allah. Find your Lubuk Pahala and work hard on it until you can become a good muslim as a whole in other aspects of your life. Do not depend on that one Lubuk Pahala though, for the ultimate goal is for us to have a ‘Good Ending’ and pave our way to Jannah. And that does not lie on Sedeqah alone. Or prayers alone. Or religious fasting. We need to still practice Islam as a whole. InsyaAllah.

 

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Zoo Melaka. With the baby this time.

Ninie has not been adventurous as a baby. Her older brother Ee, at her age have already had his first flight experience from Sarawak to KL. Ninie have not had that opportunity yet and I doubt she’ll get the chance to travel SEA countries as much as Ee. This is because Mr Husband is in a study program and his leave days are confined to only 14 days a semester. Even if we could clear our schedule, we have Ee’s formal schooling to think about.

But we did not want her to miss out on the fun. So we brought her to our favourite zoo. ZOO MELAKA.

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TICKETS

ADULT (MYKAD) : RM15. CHILDREN (MYKID) : RM6

We arrived at 10AM on a Saturday morning just so we could beat the crowd. We had a heavy breakfast at home and brought our stroller. Baby Ninie is already 6.5Kg. Too heavy to put her in a carrier and walk.

Toilets were plenty. There was even a surau. I don’t remember seeing it there before. We skipped the bird show cause we have seen it a gazillion of times.

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There were deers and kancil almost everywhere. Also monkeys. Ee of course enjoyed the elephants. I, on the other hand was mesmerized with the shape of the giraffes pËnis. The giraffe looked ready to mate but it just wouldn’t get on with it. So I had to leave. Mr Husband loved the safari trail cause he could do his 10,000 steps on the pedometer. Baby Ninie was oblivious to her surroundings.

We finished our visit by 1140AM. Our parking coupon was well timed. Yeh, you need a coupon to park there. As always, the mandatory picture with the turtle statue before we head off for lunch at the nearby McDonalds.

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Interesting things always come from being really exhausted and really sick – Adam Driver

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No interesting thing yet at this part of the world. But I strongly want to document Today.

I really have to thank a colleague for realizing that I need Time Off today. I have been unwell for the past few days, mostly due to lack of sleep and the cold flu. I have no documented high body temperature but the muscle ache is lingering every now and then. Yesterday, I was already feeling the grittiness in my throat and was hoping I could drink lots of water and sleep it off.

Unfortunately, I had very little voice this morning. Although physically I am able to do manual work, I need my voice to ask patients and give necessary advice during consultation. I can’t do that. But I went to work anyway praying for a miracle. Furthermore, being a newbie at my workplace – I hate to be the one yang baru masuk kerja, dah mintak cuti (my husbands umrah thing), dah mintak MC. Because I know I am not that type of person. In fact, I tend to put someone else’s needs before mine (like tak cukup org kat tempat kerja or someone needs to swap) because it’s just what I do. I guess it’s a mother thing. LOL.

However just 5 mins into my job, my colleague who has been there for many years already … suggested I take a sick note. She feels its not appropriate for me to work in that condition. I was thankful. When you have a senior looking out for you, it feels less guilty asking for a sick note from your boss. Cause you know how some bosses are, they’d ask your senior colleagues for feedback instead of directly asking you if you are coping or otherwise. Some bosses may want to know if you are really that sick or fooling around. But not asking you, tanya orang lain. heranlah aku.. 

When I was a so called senior at my previous workplace – I too try to help out my younger colleagues as much as I can when it comes to say, them falling ill or needed to swap. Simply because

  1.  I feel it is my responsibility as a senior, to look out for and speak up for those whose voice may be a tad smaller than yours. Sebab kalau kita, siapa lagi nak membela nasib anak bangsa. Gittew.. 
  2. Allah has given so much to me, to ease my life and Mr Husbands life. Allah made it possible for Mr Husband to transfer to his hometown where he could be close to his parents and take care of them. And them also helping to take care of their grandchildren when the need arises. So far, both of us rarely have to take EL when our kids get ill or needs to go to a competition on weekdays coz the grandparents can help to fill in our shoes. In return, we both try to be amanah in our jobs and help others (friends and colleagues) around us who needs help and ease their burden. Nak tukar oncall? boleh. Tukar slot locum? boleh. Perlu EL today cause anak sakit and their own parents jauh? Go ahead, we got your back. Coz the kesenangan and utuh family support that we benefit from today is not just for us, it’s also a tool for us to extend help to others who need it. InsyaAllah.

So here I am at home looking out at the sun. Without the baby. But with Ee to keep me company. I have a jug of water to finish and 2 bottles of tamarind juice to consume. Speedy recovery Minci. Esok sambung kerja.

The Shore Oceanarium, Melaka

Ever since Baby Ninie came into the picture – it was very difficult to have a one on one Mother-Son moment with Ee. I still manage to squeeze some quality time (meaning focused on him) in our everyday interactions during dinner, bedtime chit chats or that morning breakfast.. but any activities more than an hour stretch was hard to come by.

I finally did get that chance to spend time with him during one of my precious off days on a weekday when Baby Ninie was at daycare!

We went to The Shore Oceanarium, Melaka. I picked him up from school that afternoon, had a quick lunch at home and changed our clothes. The place was less than 10 mins from where we live by car and I managed to secure a parking lot for FREE at the 2nd floor.

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We showed our MyKad and Mykid at the ticket counter and soon we were on our mini excursions. Mind you, there are no toilets inside the Oceanarium itself, so please try to empty your bladder and the kids, before coming in.

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This was the price we paid for. The Combo was apparently for the 3D Theatre Package stuff and Souvenirs. Our Welcome Gifts included an expensive looking Fridge Magnet and a Badge. I added the Feeding Frenzy Package for Ee for an extra RM10.60. I’m not quite sure if it was worth it though. I will tell you later. We were given a plastic bag yang bergulung-gulung for that feeding part. You have no idea whats in it guys..

We were also given a piece of paper which had questionnaires on it. Kind of like a Treasure Hunt. The answers were inside the Oceanarium and upon completion, we were to hand the paper back to the reception to claim a complimentary prize even though you did not get 100% right.

Our first stop was the ‘petting area’. We get to touch a starfish, a rayfish and some other fishes. There was a lady, very friendly and was all smiles tending to us. Ee macam geli, so he refused to touch anything. Before long, we were on a momentum admiring the facts about some of the sea creatures through the questionnaires and the beautiful boards on the wall.

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Everytime we get an answer to the questions, we would put a chop to the answers. Ee really enjoyed that part. Tapi jawapan main taram je. There were plenty of places to strike a pose and there were also Augmented Reality areas where someone like Ee can berlakon a bit before taking a picture.

The Feeding Frenzy Area was our last stop. We opened the plastic bag and I was disappointed. Isi ikan yg ntah brp ketul je with plastic glove. Just that for RM10.60. I would put the price for that package for at least RM5. Bagus lagi bagi kura2 Farm in the City makan kangkung sampai buncit. But since Ee enjoyed that part of the trip most –  I was torn on whether the package was worth it after all.

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We handed over the paper to the reception and hey ho – we got a quality keychain each. Takyah susah2 beli souvenir. Unless you want to get extra for your family and friends.

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It was an educational afternoon for both of us. I just wished that the ladies at the reception and at the turnstile gate be more charming or at least smile. Like the girl at the petting zone tu ke. Diorang sangat masam ok. Like helloo.. you are working in a place that caters to kids and family. They should learn something from the Farm in the City folks. Yang kerja kat Zoo Melaka and Legoland pun happier. Blom lagi yg kerja kat Everland Korea. Mampu nak pusing2 tangan cakap Hi?

Putting that aside, it was still a fun and expensive entertaining trip. I’m already scanning my calendar for our next Mother-Son date. Perhaps Mamee Factory at Jonker Street?

 

 

March Babies

I love celebrating birthdays even if its just with a cupcake and us in pyjamas. Of course the grand ones are just as lovely. Recently my nephew and niece turned 2 and they were born just a few days apart.

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AKIF

He is my younger sister’s 2nd son. We had a closed family celebration but the food my sister prepared was like for more than a dozen people. The cake was from Berry’s and its decorations were upgraded with a Superwings Sugar paste photo. Laksa Johor was the main dish and the variety of finger food was delicious – Hotdog rolls, crabmeat sushi, mini colourful burgers, cheesy wedges and crinkle cut fries AND marshmallow in a cup to name a few. My sister really has the best ideas when it comes to parties and events. No wonder she makes a good teacher.

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Surrounded by the abundance of food, consumed also by gluttony – memang sah naik berat badan 2 KG.

Ee bought a plane present for Akif and his older brother, Adil got Thomas. We bought it from the ToyShop at the 3rd floor of Aeon Melaka. Every purchase is eligible for free wrapping and batteries if needed.

 

AMIRA

The following weekend pulak my niece turned also, TWO. There were lamb briyani and nasi ayam. My MIL made her favourite drinks – air mata kucing and lychee. As for cakes, there was a choice of 2 – a sponge cake with a toy on it and a blueberry cheesecake.

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This time I got Amira a mini briefcase toy of the Supermarket series. I hope she likes it.

Until next year March babies. Now I can’t wait for November.