Setting Priorities

This past week I was confronted with the difficult task of setting my Priorities for a particular weekend. I had thought it would be easy. After all, don’t they always go in this sequence : Family > Work > Friends > Yourself > Hobby. 

Everything just had to happen on the weekend of the 2nd and 3rd March. This is what I have to deal with.

  • Ee’s swimming class. It’s not that easy to reschedule because this is the monthly contract where he has to attend at the same time every week. He has already missed one class worth RM40.
  • Back To School (BTS 2020) committee meeting. Held once every 6 months where we get updates on what we have been up to and setting new goals.
  • Family Day for my clinic. Obviously my attendance is expected because I am not only one of the new ones there but also I am the president of the programme.
  • My nephews birthday. A nephew is like a son. And birthdays weigh in more love points. lol.
  • A colleagues wedding.
  • My brother in laws merisik entourage to Serdang. His prospective bride is a houseman. Whoaaaa…. another doc in the house.

Out of the 6, I had to forgo 3 activities. I am sorry. I cannot be there for all. And these priorities, at the end of the day, is not as simple as : : Family > Work > Friends > Yourself > Hobby. 

Why I did not join an oil sharing session prior to my enrollment

When I enrolled with doTERRA on my own – meaning I registered myself under a sponsor without any consult, I did not attend any oil sharing classes. I did not even join the brand competitors oiling class.

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Most of the time, if I choose to commit to something for a long time, for instance my Hobonichi – I’d have studied independently the matter of interest for a few months already. I get my information through the company/brand website or social media and process on how these products seem to portray itself at first sight and evaluate if their corporate values coincide with mine.

Then, I would do a hashtag check and see if the people using the brand/product are people who I’d like to be around with. Meaning are they kind? Are they being honest or pure malicious plus greedy? Again, first impressions count.

Then I would (still) go blog hopping and read on reviews. Especially blogs that highlight words like ‘fake’, ‘waste of money’ or a blunt scam. Of course at the end of the day, I make an informed decision of whether I still want to make the purchase despite the negative review (if any). Although the option of joining the free classes are there, I still didn’t go.

orang kata hati kering. Part of the reason is how I choose to prioritise my time. You know how a session due to start at 9am can end up being delayed an hour later? malaysian time.  Other reasons being, I worry that once I attend these classes I would change my mind due these factors.

  • overconfident claims or pure bullshit stories
  • advocates not knowing their stuff (gosh, now I am one, I feel so pressured to fulfill my own expectations)
  • pushy advocates – they make you feel guilty for not signing up. Trust me, these people exists. They shouldn’t be called advocates for all they care about is enrollments and how they could earn commissions.

 

In a way, this also highlights how powerful social media is if you know how to use it properly. I was influenced to use doTERRA by 2 main individuals. Mr Iman Wan & Fera (my sponsor).

I like that in Mr Iman’s personal family instagram account – he does not push doTERRA to our faces in every single post. There’s a bit of show and tell but they were not the main highlights of his IG account. Therefore, as a person interested in the oils, we do not feel overwhelmed. Instead, there will be moments of “oooh” or “aaahhhh” which would intrigue you to find out more.

Which brings on to Fera’s personal accounts. Her IG is more ‘outspoken’ when it comes to introducing the use of essential oils. Her strength in her social media presence was that she was able to make us relate to her personal experience using the oils. We feel that we could also integrate the use of such EO’s in our daily lives. In fact, the message is so clear, honest and true that once I started using the oils, I felt that I have finally found what I was looking for to make my life better.

In short, social media can be so powerful nowadays in promoting things. Thus, also open to criticisms. Which can be destructive sometimes. It is only now that I have started to join doTERRA activities and oil sharing sessions hosted by my more experienced fellow advocates. The aim is more to consolidate what I know with regards to the use of the oils and of course to meet nice, like-minded people.

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Gallant husband

Suami adalah pelindung. Walau dalam ketiadaan kita, dia melindungi kita.

Hanis Zalikha, a local Malaysian celebrity,  narrated a story on her IG of how when she had hyperemesis gravidarum – she had to relieve herself at the restaurants public toilet. Little did she know that her retching was somehow audible to some patrons at the eatery. As she returned to her table, she was met by the unpleasant stares of the staff there. She was puzzled and wondered what happened.

Later the husband divulged that a customer complained regarding the restaurants service and made a scene regarding Hanis’s involuntary vomiting to the cashier. The husband then went to the man, confronted him nicely (meaning no raised voices, harsh words or a fist) and explained the wife’s pregnant situation. He even added an apology for the discomfort it caused to the customer.

Now, if this was my version of the story, I am not quite sure if my husband would rise to the occasion and make a similar counter-attack. Perhaps I am underestimating his romanticism and chivalry, but the aftermath of an imaginary me suffering from morning sickness would probably be met by him just ignoring that man because he was just not worth his time. Furthermore, the man was already at the counter wanting to pay and do not know who the puking lady in the bathroom is.

It is just the way he is. huhu.