Caprice says Social Media is the new Power. Sadly, how true. It is very easy to just judge someone based on a single photo or a video cut short. You drink a cup of coffee beside a penguin they say you want to abuse it, a guy wears pink to his grandma’s birthday party to fulfill the theme – netizens say he is gay. Just because he hugged a male cousin who is also wearing pink in ONE PHOTO.
But that is Social Media. We also cannot run away from being judgmental on a first encounter with a stranger in real life. We categorize people based on what they wear or who they hang out with. Pakai purdah is Arqam.. or sesat.. or antivaccine. Tak pakai tudung is tak solat, tak kenal agama. Cam tuhlah. Sedangkan we may never be sure the good things they do to please Allah. The Lubuk Pahala Allah gives to people we think have sinned greatly or is far from perfection – simply because He loves them!
Perhaps to a GRO, He bestowed her a disabled child whom she loves dearly and cares for unconditionally. To a childless couple a great amount of wealth so they could be generous and sedekah always.
And yet being human, we still judge. I too have my fair share of incidences which woke me up and made me istighfar as I felt awful for judging them too early. Eventhough it was not on Social Media tapi bila terdetik , “Eeeee.. dia tak malu ke mcm tuh. Tak insaf ke?” or “camnelah dia nak masuk syurga”.. it still feels bad.
Once during medical school in Manchester, I was in the same group with this very energetic, young male Lebanese Muslim. He was popular for he loves to mingle with everyone. To the muslims, he would greet “SalamAlaykum Sisters/Brothers”.. to the non muslims it’ll be a hey man sorta thing. He would join every single social gathering like a pub crawl or a costume party. He does not drink alcohol but he socializes freely with the ladies. He would give them nice big hugs. Never a kiss but hugs definitely. He wears a tight top which shows off his well sculpted body almost everyday.
I was wearing a hijab like those muslimahs you often see and I did not go to pub crawls. Not even the MESS PARTY. Hence it was easy for me to say ” kenapalah suka nak gi tempat2 camtuh” Until one day….
We finished our group session for the day. Being the friendly guy he is, he was asking me (my sister Yasmin, that is what he usually calls me) how I was doing and how I should show him around Malaysia one day if he’d ever reach here – while rearranging his books and papers in his bag, when suddenly he brought out a little Quran. My immediate response was “oouh?” while pointing at the kitab.
He said “yeah yeah.. I bring it with me everywhere sister. I read them everyday. Are not the words of Allah beautiful? Our prophet Muhammad S.A.W. is such a lucky dude to be the first man to receive His words yeh?”
I was at lost of words. This man who hugs girls, goes to pub crawls – brings The Quran in his bagpack everywhere and reads them daily! Aku? Kadang-kadang seminggu pun macam tak sentuh. That was one of the biggest lessons I have learnt about Lubuk Pahala. This friend of mine, his was InsyaAllah in the reading of the Quran.
There was this lady at work who wears the hijab as part of the uniform but frees her hair outside of work. Yet you can tell that she is kind from the way she talks and treats other people. So it was easy to say, “budaknya dah baik, kan bagus kalau dia pakai tudung”. Then you learn that she is more than kind – she prays her solat Fardhu on time and not only that, she wakes up at night for her tahajud. And she is not even above 30 years old. MasyaAllah.
Aku? Who will be 35 this year? Solat kekadang hujung waktu. Tahajud apatah lagi.
InsyaAllah her Lubuk Pahala is in her prayers and with time InsyaAllah she will cover herself as well.
To err is human. But we should always find ways to improve ourselves and please Allah. Find your Lubuk Pahala and work hard on it until you can become a good muslim as a whole in other aspects of your life. Do not depend on that one Lubuk Pahala though, for the ultimate goal is for us to have a ‘Good Ending’ and pave our way to Jannah. And that does not lie on Sedeqah alone. Or prayers alone. Or religious fasting. We need to still practice Islam as a whole. InsyaAllah.