“If we are to live together in peace, we must come to know each other better”
Even as a doctor, I still get a tad jealous of how much time my husband spent at work. Yes, eventhough we work in the same hospital, though in different departments, if I arrive home earlier.. id still be wondering, “Whylahhhhhhhh.. he’s late? Banyak lagi ke kerjanya?”
Multiply that with a few days of the week of every month.. you get a very dissatisfied wife. A lonely wife. An unhappy wife.
But because Im in the same line of workwith Mr Husband, the math kind of works the same the oher way round. This is when being UNDERSTANDING plays a huge role in our relationship.
We make it a point for each other to know;
- what our job involves. For instance, when I was in the anaesthetic dept, I let him know what I do. I intubate patients, give spinal block, care for patients in the ICU, do premed. Its to make him feel involved. to make him have an idea of why I would react in a certain way that day etc.
- the normal working hours
- the extra working hours – when the next shift is, our next oncall
- who we usually hang out with,
so he can spy, so he’ll know who to find if he cant reach me
In short, be transparent. Tell everything about work. In a marriage, there’s no such thing as ‘lets not bring work home’. Work is a crucial part of any married life. At least, when I come home I’ll know that he’s not there because , “Yah.. he’s oncall” and I dont have to prepare dinner. He he.