“The greatest gift you and your partner can give your children is the example of an intimate, healthy, and loving relationship.”
– Barbara De Angelis –
Some consider it a plus point, others see it as a curse. I, for one am (most of the time) glad that I married a doctor. Undeniably the stakes in this marriage is high especially when it involves time and l.o.v.e. despite being financially established to raise a family. We’d be oncall every other day and perhaps seeing each other only once a week. Still, it would be horrible and dare I say, stressful on my part if I were the only doctor in the family and my husband is not from the same professional background.
My main reason being:
Because Im a doctor, I should know everything under the sun about diseases, medication etc.
That is what most people would expect of me. And the last thing I want is for the whole village to come over to my house asking nonsensical so-called medical related questions. On top of that, I simply couldnt handle the pressure of having to rise above the occasion everytime just because I have the qualifications to do so.
you are after all a doctor.. you should know.. bla bla bla
Well, sometimes I dont want to be a doctor. I just want to be a mother, a wife. Hence, one of the perks of having Mr Husband as a doctor is that he can also share the responsibility and ‘burden’ of being one when its due. Its like a second opinion, only its welcomed. And heavily appreciated.
Secondly, there is no guilt in talking about work. Our work is part of our lives and bears the same weight of importance as our family and children. We enjoy solving each others cases, offering insights, sharing resources and of course our favourite pastime, bi*ching about other people. Other joys would be having almost the same circle of friends. So we would know who we’re referring to as we …. talk about them.
Thirdly, we both understand the demands of our job. Of why we have to be oncall so frequent and why after the call we become semi-functional zombies. Thus allowing us both to pattern our lives around it so much so that we could still bring on a positive and lively environment for our children to grow up in.
No 4: Mr Husband and I have different hobbies and interest but they do eventually merge on the same line. Our common obsession with the latest episode of Top Chef, Grey’s Anatomy and Desperate Housewives. Not only that, the need to get a good pen torch, a nice stethoscope and just how many would understand that we would need lots and lots of pens?
Finally as mentioned earlier, the moolah is not an issue. Not that we live in a penthouse anyway. Enough to sustain our family matters.