March Babies

I love celebrating birthdays even if its just with a cupcake and us in pyjamas. Of course the grand ones are just as lovely. Recently my nephew and niece turned 2 and they were born just a few days apart.



He is my younger sister’s 2nd son. We had a closed family celebration but the food my sister prepared was like for more than a dozen people. The cake was from Berry’s and its decorations were upgraded with a Superwings Sugar paste photo. Laksa Johor was the main dish and the variety of finger food was delicious – Hotdog rolls, crabmeat sushi, mini colourful burgers, cheesy wedges and crinkle cut fries AND marshmallow in a cup to name a few. My sister really has the best ideas when it comes to parties and events. No wonder she makes a good teacher.


Surrounded by the abundance of food, consumed also by gluttony – memang sah naik berat badan 2 KG.

Ee bought a plane present for Akif and his older brother, Adil got Thomas. We bought it from the ToyShop at the 3rd floor of Aeon Melaka. Every purchase is eligible for free wrapping and batteries if needed.



The following weekend pulak my niece turned also, TWO. There were lamb briyani and nasi ayam. My MIL made her favourite drinks – air mata kucing and lychee. As for cakes, there was a choice of 2 – a sponge cake with a toy on it and a blueberry cheesecake.


This time I got Amira a mini briefcase toy of the Supermarket series. I hope she likes it.

Until next year March babies. Now I can’t wait for November.



I am a Core Follower

Yes, you heard it here first. I am not a good Leader but I am a great Follower. But not just any follower. I am one of the best CORE FOLLOWER any leader could ask for. It’s like.. you can give me the lousiest leader in the world and I can still make him/her look good.

Ok. Settle. Dah puji diri sendiri hari ni. Haha. 

Strong leaders need these Core Followers (CF) who can in turn sometimes become mini leaders themselves and help to micromanage things. Core Followers tend to be those who knows how to execute tasks in a timely and expected manner but have for instance, problems in being under the spotlight or being out in the public eye. CF have exceptional skills or resources that the leader may not have. Pandai ke, kaya ke, good communication skills ke, femes ke.. ada kabel besau ke. CF tend to be loyal and enjoy working in a team to achieve the greater purpose or goal and are able to visualize and appreciate the bigger picture before the mass of people does. CF’s also often put other peoples needs before them, sometimes at the expense of their own family or personal relationships.

And a leader does not need a lot of them. We are after all talking about CORE FOLLOWERS. FIVE is a good number. Identify 5 strong individuals in your organization and keep them close. Watch over their well being. Listen to their stories. Act upon their concerns. And if the leaders plays his role well – the main CF will stay with the leader for a long time until there is a need to change in the future.

Panjang ni 277 perkataan. Dah rasa payah nak tulis. Canne nak buat buku ni.. 


Matin the Manny


Matin would be my youngest brother, 23 years old. Still single but not available. I had to import him from home as I needed help to manage my kids. He was God sent. Like Wow. He was able to not only do the basic stuff I ask of him but more – like taking out the trash and washing up our breakfast dishes. Sometimes it is those little things that make me happy. I wish he could stay longer.

But Life must go on.

With Mr Husband just 2 days back home, I’m already having a headache putting up with his antics. Some jokes are just not funny anymore. I am still sleep deprived and my body hurts like hell. I don’t like my new job. I love my new friends though.

My next leave will be in May and maybe, just maybe that time – I get to have a good body massage.

Baby Ninie. Deciding between Daycare and Babysitter. Ended up choosing daycare. Why.

Mr Husband voted for daycare. I voted for a babysitter. I even made a few mental notes of the type of babysitter I’d choose or avoid.

  • Not having too many kids they babysit at home. Something like not having 2 babies less than 1 year old at one time.
  • Mothers with small kids of their own ( < 2 years old) is also not preferable because their kids would also demand attention. It’s normal. This is also for safety reasons as the carer could be stressed out and impose harm to the kids.
  • Avoid those with home/ online business that involves baking or food prep related products. My fear would be kids getting near hot utensils or sharp objects. But then comes the question – if they need to post their items for those selling cosmetics for instance, do they bring my child to the post office as well or have the postman pick it up?

I was hoping that once I choose a proper babysitter, Baby Ninie would be in a less crowded centre with personalized care. Full attention.

Mr Husband however, said it was dangerous to leave the child with A Babysitter. That one stranger whom you’ve never actually met before to care for an infant who couldn’t speak for herself. To him there are risks of unwitnessed abuse or assault, unwitnessed negligence, abduction (gosh) and what not. It does sound scary when laid out that way.


While he agrees that in daycare, the numbers may be bigger and risk of negligence may arise – the key is to find a registered Daycare as a start. At least we know that a certain policy or training is in place to maintain the harmony and safety of the centre. And if reported for God forbid, some sort of offence – a penalty will be ensued. There may be bad apples but it would be rare for all of them to be horrible carers.

We found a daycare near our home. It had a registration number and was owned by a couple that my father in law knew. While the couple had a respectable background, we cannot say the same for the workers but we hope that surveillance is done promptly to monitor them. Because I understand how stressful it is to even care for one baby, what more with possibly 5 in one day. Not to mention the screaming bigger kids.

I took tips from friends and my sister – to ease the caretakers job and to protect Baby Ninie as well. Some of these tips include;

  1. Prepare a reasonable number of bottles to daycare, so they wouldn’t have to worry about washing the bottles too much. let them know you are okay with bringing back the unwashed bottles. Baby Ninie had 3.
  2. Choose a teat with a slow flow for infants. I personally chose Pigeons Peristaltic teat. It costs me about RM45 per bottle. mahal kan. sebab tak nak tersedak. It’s supposed to have that protective measure of not flowing if the baby is not sucking on the milk. But in a few months when she can sit up, I would opt for cheaper bottles.
  3. Provide enough milk formula and bring back the milk during the weekend. so you could monitor how much milk your child consumes and see whether it tallies with the usual amount you give at home. Some pre-packed the milk in small containers or straight in the bottle but I worry that sometimes Ninie may need small topups in between of an ounce or 2.
  4. Similar to diapers – some provide the whole pack. I prefer to supply on a daily basis so I could keep track how often her diapers are changed in a day. My magic number is 7. Some mothers advise in investing for the more expensive diapers that could hold urine more since diaper changing can be less frequent in certain centres.
  5. Prepare her grooming stuff in a bucket that is mobile so you could bring it back home at the end of the day.
  6. Finally, pray, Pray that god will look after her and keep her away from harm. InsyaAllah.

So far Baby Ninie is OK. The other bigger kids seem to like her a lot. HAHAHA. The main caretakers although young, seems nice. I hope it is not a front. We are paying RM100 for registration and RM350 per month. We can send her as early as 715AM and hope to fetch her by 530PM.

Yes, she gets cranky sometimes as reported by her carers. Mosquitoes bite her smooth skin once in a while but nothing major. She seems to posset a lot judging from her smell and wet clothes. The colour of her poo seems alright which is consistent with what she is feeding on.

Caring for a baby requires cooperation and proper communication between parents and carers. The child will grow in front of both their eyes and it is important to communicate changes and growth spurts to each other. If everything goes well, we may continue for the next year before she goes to preschool.


My 3 days off. Aneka aktiviti dalam cuti.

Since Mr Husband and his family is away for umrah – the sole responsibility of caring for the kids rest on my shoulders. With a bit of auxiliary help from other members of the family. I was prepared and in fact, have put aside a considerable number of days for me to take leave for this matter. However, due to work constraints.. only 3 days were approved.

My main reason for taking leave was so that I could pick up my firstborn Ee from school on time and usher him to his school activities promptly. I’d feel worried if he had to stay within the school compound longer than he should. Otherwise, most of the hours I am pretty much a free bird as Baby Ninie is in daycare. I tried to negotiate my hours with my boss instead of taking leave , which in my opinion does not affect the clinics daily service – but I got a look and a sigh in return. so takpelah….Minci does not beg. Or take EL. I just feel that if you are in a position to help – please do so within your capacity. I saw a way to go around the problem but my solution was not accepted. Perhaps there are hidden things I have yet to know. My youngest brother thankfully will come over to help out next soon. Alhamdulilah walaupun lunch call hours rasa mcm dah burn.

Anyway – I reaped the benefits of my 3 day leave to the max. For myself – I got my hair done after having a Mak Limah balik kampung fashion for almost 2 years, watched a movie and shopped for new tudungs. I wished to get a full body massage but the parlours I surveyed opened quite late and I would have to rush to pick up my son. So, maybe next time – an afternoon session on days Ee does not have religious school.

My Hair Do

I chose a salon nearby called Heritage Hair Salon for my hair treatment using an Indonesian product range called MAKARIZO (green tea & butter). Having experienced quite a few other salons in Kuching and Selangor – this place would fall under the budget category with perhaps a rating of 5 stars out of 10. The hospitality (meaning the chatters and advice) is wonderful but there are a few aspects which could be nicer, I think.

I go to the salon for various reasons. Apart from the obvious of getting your hair managed, I choose to go to a shop to have my hair shampooed is because I want to enjoy the head and shoulder massage and read the many magazines they have! The ones that you wouldn’t really want to buy for yourself but love to read all the same. Heritage lacked that factor a bit.

My best head and shoulder massage was from a salon in Kuching. Can’t remember its name because I went there during my zaman jahiliah times.. but it was at The Spring. I had my hair cut into a pixie, bleached and got the best massage ever from a chinese, male hairstylist. I was treated like a princess, OK. Aduh.. pastinya pengalaman itu tidak akan berulang. Astarghfirullah. 😛 I think I went to Bali after that with my girlfriends.


This is one of the reasons why I never take Mr Husbands, or any other peoples reviews seriously. He said it was a boring movie. Ee and I on the other hand, enjoyed it a lot. I love how Wakanda’s women are so empowered and that sibling relationship goals are so cute.


I went for the early bird showtime at Melaka Mall. I swear the workers there was amused that someone would actually watch a 10AM movie but that’s because they don’t have the vision of their bosses. These hours are meant for mothers like myself who steals time for a movie before they go about picking up their kids from school. I was literally standing in line for the counter to open. LOL. of course I took the time to explain to the popcorn girl that I need to fetch my kids. Just so when they talk about me during their break, this girl would enlighten them of my duties. Nanti korang jadi mak.. korang taulah ye.. nak cukur bulu kaki pun tk sempat kekadang. 

Other than my #selfreward activities, I also did the house chores and attempted to do some meal prep to lessen my cooking times. Hopefully it helps. LOL.


I managed to also bring Ee to The Shores Oceanerium but that is another blogpost. It was a 3 day holiday well spent. I will remember to put aside some time for myself again in the future. Maybe with my girlfriends next time, InsyaAllah.